You've read the books. You've had the conversations. You're self-aware enough to see the patterns —
and frustrated enough to know that seeing them isn't the same as changing them.
That's exactly where this work begins.
Relational living isn't about gaining more insight. It's about building a different practice — new ways of showing up in the moments that matter most. In conflict. In closeness. In the daily friction of a life shared with people you love.
Who I work with
COUPLES & FAMILIES NAVIGATING DISCONNECTION
You’re not in crisis. You’re not headed for divorce. But somewhere along the way — maybe after kids, maybe after years — you stopped being teammates and started being roommates. Or the same argument keeps surfacing no matter how many times you resolve it. You love each other. You just need better tools and a skilled outside perspective to help you use them.
Relationships itself is treated as the primary unit of healing — individual wounds show up most vividly in the relational space, so that's where they're most effectively addressed. Terry Real emphasizes that transformation happens through the lived experience of being in a new kind of relationship, not just through insight alone, which is why the couple working together creates change that individual therapy often can't replicate.
I work especially well with couples whose relational stress is tangled up in parenting and family systems — blended families, co-parenting dynamics, the particular pressure of raising kids together while trying to maintain a real partnership.
INDIVIDUALS READY TO SHOW UP DIFFERENTLY
Most of us were never taught how to be in relationship. Not really. We were taught to perform, provide, and keep it together — not how to be present, how to repair, how to ask for what we need without shutting down or blowing up.
If you want to be better in relationship — with your partner, your kids, your family — and you’re willing to do honest work to get there, this is a good place to do it.
TEENAGE BOYS BECOMING MEN
This is some of the most important work I do. Teenage boys are in the middle of figuring out who they are and how to be — relationally, emotionally, in the world. Most of them aren’t getting much guidance on that. Not the real kind.
Drawing on 25 years of working with young people in Montessori, as a collegiate basketball coach, elite soccer coach, and in outdoor settings, I work with teenage boys on the relational and emotional skills that will shape every relationship they have for the rest of their lives.
Parents are involved in the intake process; sessions are one-on-one with the young man.
What working with me looks like
I'm easy to be with and hard to hide from.
I work slowly and with full presence — unhurried, grounded, genuinely curious about what's alive in front of me. I'm often barefoot. There's usually dirt on my hands somewhere in the day. I bring the same quality of attention to a session that I bring to time outside: no rushing toward solutions, no fixing before we've truly understood what's happening.
I will push you. I'll ask for more than you thought you were ready to give — and in my experience, most people rise to meet that.
My background in natural movement, permaculture, and embodied learning shapes how I work. Relationship isn't only a mental or emotional experience. It lives in the body — in how we brace, how we breathe, how we soften or shut down. For couples and groups especially, I sometimes draw on movement and play as a way to access what words alone can't reach.
All sessions are conducted via Zoom. In-person sessions in Evergreen, CO are available by arrangement.
Ways to work together
COUPLES COACHING
Couples work is the ideal modality. Joint sessions focused on patterns, communication, and building a relational culture that actually works for both of you. Not conflict resolution — something deeper.
INDIVIDUAL COACHING
One-on-one sessions for men working on how they show up in relationship. We go at your pace, on your real material.
COACHING FOR YOUNG MEN
One-on-one sessions for teenage boys. Focused on knowing oneself, emotional literacy, and the relational skills that schools don't teach.
GROUP & TEAM OFFERINGS
Coming soon.
Family systems, men's groups, couples intensives, and team-building experiences that draw on movement and play. Reach out if you're interested.